It's been a while since I've done this. Call it a palate cleanser/expander, an effort to improve oneself, etc. I indulge in these once in a whole in an effort to better myself. Also, I turned a year older this week so maybe that's it. :P
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I'm a Joel Osteen fan. I'm not a member of his church but I like his style as it's more motivational than devotional. YOU CAN YOU WILL is basically a book about self-empowerment. Most of the things JOsteen mentioned here we're familiar with, we've heard it before, but needless to say, we all need reminders now and again. My favorite is the part where he's basically saying that we need to love ourselves first before anything or anyone else. That we can still be a good friend with that person who's always negative without having to partake in that negativity because it's holding us back and is weighing us down.
I reread that part a few times because I have a friend who's always having some relationship drama and though I love her, I'm at the point where I'm getting frustrated with the cycle but thought I can't quit because that's not being a good friend. JOsteen's chapter on that helped put things in perspective for me so I now plan to apply that theory and hopefully, it works! If not I think I'm on the verge of losing a friend. Lol
As for Gary Chapman, I got curious after this person I follow on Instagram would always post snaps of her GChapman devotional. I'm not married but I feel like most of his teachings and principles can be applied to any kind of relationship be it family or friendship. THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES is a great introduction to GChapman's book for me. Like the JOsteen book, it's easy to imbibe because we know this, it's just a matter of putting things in perspective so we can effectively apply it.
What I love about THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES is it made a lot of sense to me. It's not some hifalutin concept, people do respond differently depending on our background, upbringing, and needs. Like in my family, we're not big talkers, we're demonstrators when it comes to emotions and love affirmations are usually awkward and saved for special occasions. That said some people crave verbal confirmations and for our relationships to work, we also have to acknowledge the other person's love language. Like they might not pick up on say my demonstrative ways but will appreciate me telling them that I care.
Both YOU CAN YOU WILL and THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES are Christian based books. BUT it's far from devotional, both JOsteen and GChapman quote scripture but to me it's more of a reinforcement than a strategy to force feed their faith on you or convince you to convert if you're not Christian. I'm Catholic and I'm sensitive to preachy books, I wasn't offended with either of these nor was I bothered by the bible references (there's a reasonable amount). Then again I've never been non-Christian so I don't really know how people of other faith will take it. I still recommend you try it if you're curious, you only have things to gain and none to lose.