Hey y'all and welcome to my new blog series chronicling my online dating adventures.
Okay you can.
But in my defense, this is one of the many ways that I'm stepping out of my comfort zone. As I mentioned in last week's Gush & Gripe, I'm in the process of making a life change and I figured why not try online dating?!
I'm skeptical at worst and pragmatic at best. I'm aware that a lot of these dudes are doing the online dating thing just to get some pussy FAST! Plus not everyone is really honest with their description (I didn't realize body type is relative like some consider themselves athletic when really their far from it. Don't even get me started on the photos!). So I put my own rusty armor on, armed myself with heaps of snark, and added my best version of a discerning attitude.
Is it working?, you might ask. I'm happy to report that I haven't recieved any lascivious messages or have been propositioned for sex. That said, I've "met" a few players, some are obvious as their profiles are simply screaming that they're just looking for a good time, so I guess I know where to look for stress relief via sexology; while others seem earnest in their search so I'm not completely disheartened at this point. Still, weeding is a challenge and the "search" can be exhausting! There's so many profiles to look at but the upside is I'm getting disensitized and find myself getting more objective in terms of filtering out the "possibles" from the "nos".
If you're not familiar with Match, it has option to Like, Wink, and Message, and since the playing field is even, there's no shame in making the first move. I have to say though, it takes several layers of skin to do this online dating thing and I applaud those people who've been doing this for some time. Rejection is your main enemy here and the best advice I can give anybody who is thinking of doing this is to not take things personally. You'll do your own share of rejecting and you'll also get a good serving of it so there's a healthy balance to it somewhat.
Thanks for checking out this first post, next time I'll tell you about Johnny Bravo. Until then!