4 years of blogging has opened my eyes to a lot of personalities in this sphere. So even if the vast majority of blogs I follow are FANTASTIC, there are a few stragglers that skipped out on taking their daily dose of Happy pills. And inasmuch as I try to tolerate the BS, live and let live, I just have to bid ADIOS to some because I don't need more negativity in my life. Have you watched the news lately?! Here's a few scenarios where I just dropped the mic:
- Blogger listed a few series s/he won't touch and proceeded to bash the series. Ummm, excuse me? You HAVEN'T READ THE BOOKS! How can you sit there and rant over something you barely even know?!
- Blogger kept on posting "snarky" (it's really not) discussion posts. Let me put my two-cents on this one: Snark requires humor aka wit aka considerable grey matter. Snarky is supposed to be funny, not hateful!
- This last one isn't hateful, it's just depressing. This particular blogger kept going on and on and on about the woes of her life. I mean I wish you the best, but it's hard to find happiness when all you focus on are the miseries of your life.
Those are just a few I recall, I'm sure I can come up with more if I think about it long enough. But that's not the point I'm trying to make here. I've noticed that people just gravitate towards negativity be it a bad review or a ranty post (like this?).
I've noticed it on Talk Supe's review posts too! For some reason, books that were rated 2 and below have more page views than the ones who got 3 and up. Now why is that? Is it for the sake of having balanced expectations? Unbridled delight that a book failed for someone? I've also read accounts bullying where a reader was ganged up on because s/he LOVED the book that a lot of people disliked.
And don't get me wrong, I know I can be a hater too! I can't stand Kendall and Kyle Jenner (sorry if you're a fan), people who overshare on social media (we don't want to see your #freshlyfucked smiling faces), Nicki Minaj and her race card, Vladimir Putin, Victoria Secret models, ISIS, and all the bigots in the world.
But I can't control them! I can just control ME and the surefire way to do that is avoid them haters like the plague!
And don't even get me started on Trolls! From a Wise Woman aka Shelley:
There's that saying that if you can't say something nice, keep your blarking mouth shut! That goes for Twitter too, making comments on blogs, or wherever you may roam on the internet.
So guys, how do you deal with the haters? Do you ignore them or has there ever been a moment where you can't help but engage?
Note: This Gush & Gripe edition is inspired partly by Heidi's Tell Me Tuesdays at Rainy Day Ramblings