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March 25, 2015

Gush & Gripe: I'm a Horrible Fangirl!


My name is Braine, I love books and worship my favorite authors. 
But I'm a terrible fangirl. 

I used to be a good fan. I would stalk authors via Facebook, go out of my way to get updated with whatever it is that's going on in their lives, their books, chat with fellow fans, eagerly put their new releases et al on blast. But as the blog grew and life progressed, not only has my time for fangirling whittled, I also became less and less enthusiastic about my Fandom membership.

TIME: Blogging itself is demanding, book blogging is a totally different animal! We spend an average of maybe 10 hours (or more) preparing for a post, from reading, researching, linking up, and other necessary add ons to make the post pretty, informative, and uniquely our own. But it doesn't stop there, after the post is up, you then have to blast it to the World Wide Web via social media, review sites, and visit other blogs to promote your post or encourage comments or page views back to yours. Put it all together and the hours put in on just one post is more than an average work day for a normal employee. Factor in your responsibilities outside the blog and you barely have enough time to do other stuff. And that includes fangirling for me. So I'm behind book news and either get my updates from the grapevine or make the effort to look it up myself.

FREE LABOR: Let me start this section with a little disclaimer: I do love my authors, and I don't really mind pimping them. Great work deserves recognition and its meant to be shared IMHO, and I will help spread the word so other people can experience the same greatness I did. 

That said, in my years for blogging, I've been part of various street teams. And though some of them are really fun, supportive, and encouraging, some aren't as good as I hoped it would be.

I've been part of a few teams (which I've already quit) wherein I felt like its using its members for free labor. Like I'd get an alarm for a task I have to do for the day, and this is EVERYDAY, and should I fail to complete a certain number of task, my membership is in peril. I mean, that's fucked up, right? It's not like they pay me to do shit! 

CRAZY AUTHORS: We've all heard, or maybe even came across first hand bad author behavior. There was a time when a blogger friend said something a certain author didn't like, the latter got upset and basically sicced her fans on my friend and they started harassing her on FB & Twitter. I felt bad for her, but that was also a good lesson on picking your battles wisely.

FANDOM: This is the most overwhelming part. Let's face it, we've all encountered some rabid fans in some shape or form. You know, the type whose realities are displaced and they think the characters they read are real and should you try and critic the books and its characters you'll get your head but off? And it doesn't end there, some of these fans are so competitive and obsessive they'd crawl up the author's ass and live there. For what?! The worst is if the author isn't doing anything, moderate or otherwise, so it's safe to assume they condone such behavior. Major turn off for me.

True story, I used to follow Karen Marie Moning's FB page... Until shit went down between fans and everyone started arguing who they think should play Jericho Barrons in the movie.  It got so UGLY KMM had to interfere, boot out a few followers, and release a statement about the drama! Now I understand why J.R. Ward has strict and set rules for her own Facebook page. Fandom is good until it gets psychotic!

My friend, Jenese, of Readers Confession book blog, also runs and moderates a BDB fan group on FB am I can tell it's not the easiest group to corral. She has to virtually police her members round the clock because some fans take it too far, too much, too often, to the point where it's excessive and not in a good way. Some of these people need to get a real life, be with real men, and stop imagining having sex with make-up beefy vampires who won't even look their way twice if they were real. 

Now if I made the mistake of saying that in the group, I'd be dead now. And as I'm opinionated and can be a bitch, but abhor drama and confrontation, I just lurk, like, laugh, and sometimes share when I feel like it. You can't argue or win when there are crazies involved. Best to just shut
up and let them win.

To conclude, I think I'm a great fan. I (also think) give fair reviews and do my part in helping my favorite scribes get their work noticed. I still belong to a HANDFUL of street teams, because I love the ones I follow and they've been great to their fans and followers IMO. I just don't want too much strings attached especially when my efforts are not being acknowledged. So until I have an extra amount of time, and/or get a wild hair on my ass and find myself ready to fist pump with other fans, I'll squeal like a piglet on my space, on my terms, in my time. 

This is Braine, I'm a good fan, but a terrible fangirl, and I'm okay with that.










47 comments:

  1. If you're a bad fangirl than I'm the worst lol

    All the kerfuffles have gotten to me over the years and a lot of the fan based promo (which I heavily participated in in the beginning) just annoys me now.

    I stick with promoting what I love and following a select group of authors on Twiiter so I'm up to date on new releases but that's about it.

    I hope one day I come around again o the enthusiasm I originally had but I'm also ok with where I'm at now.

    Great post Braine!

    Karen @For What It's Worth

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    1. it's exciting but too much of it is overwhelming. I feel I spread myself too thin sometimes.

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  2. *raises hand* I am a terrible fan girl as well. I think I was a better one before starting my blog simply because I had more time LOL! But I do still love those authors that make my heart pitter patter even if I can't always let them know. :)

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    1. Exactly! If I weren't blogging I'd still be a super fan, I think. Can't have it all

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  3. I think reviewing and being part of street teams and observing drama (from afar, thankfully) has tempered my fan girl side too. I still love my favorites and am perfectly happy spreading the love about them, but I don't have time to fan girl stalk.

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    1. I despise any kind of drama and I sure don't want to invite that here on my blog. Gosh!

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  4. I think I was a better fangirl before I started blogging too. I love blogging but man does it ever eat up time >.< Like you said, between reading, reviewing, editing, linking up, promoting and blog hoping, you pretty much the equivalent to a full-time job O.O Who has time for full-time fangirling on top of that?!

    And then there the inevitable drama that comes with any fandoms...people mistaking fandoms for real life, people being judgy or just too plain obsessed to function like a normal human being. Those things take the fun out of it imo, I wish people would get a clue sometimes >.< Doing it on your own terms is truly THE best way to do it! WTG Braine :D

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    1. the trolls are the worst! The ones who feel they can just say whatever they want, abusing their freedom of speech. Like can't I have an opinion?? lol

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  5. I went all fangirl yesterday, good times :) I love fangirling

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  6. Love this post! I'm an awful fangirl too. Time. There's not enough of it. I'm not big on being part of street teams. For me it's time. But I've seen some get way out of control. I've also seen the crazy on FB. I just have to back away from all that crazy stuff.

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    1. It's hard to get super involved because you can't block off people from your blog. At least on social media platforms you can. So I pick peace, quiet, and my blog anytime.

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  7. I used to be a fan girl, myself. Until I realized that I'm too old for it. Lol. Nowadays, I'm keeping to reading and if, perchance, I found a book to gush about, I restrict myself to gush about in my reviews and then move on. Gah. Have you ever been a part of the Twilight fa dome? Good God. That was a scary place to be.

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    1. Oh lord, Twilight! Goodness, that brought out the bitch in its fans. Like pilgrimage to Forks, crying for Edward, the Teams? Pass!

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  8. I'm an AWFUL fangirl. The closest I've come to being a fangirl has been with Doctor Who, and even then I only go in spurts, and only to a certain extent. When I was younger I used to obsess over certain authors, but it was usually one of those situations where I'd rave to my friends, but by the time other people went crazy over the same series I was already over it.

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    1. My kind of fangirling is similar to yours. I never stood outside anything waiting for something to drop or go live. I fangirled from afar, in the comforts of my home lol

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  9. lols...I'm with you Braine, I'm a bad fangirl BUT I'm a good fan. I quite all the street teams I was one, ain't nobody got time for the drama and internet crazy. It so much crazy going on of late and I'm starting believe most authors don't step in because they crazy the attention and if you need that kind of attention then that is a messed up way to get it.

    Ah well, I'm fine with not being a fan girl. I'm all for supporting my favorite authors & books, but I'm not kissing your ass :)

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    1. Unfortunately some people like their ass kissed... and say they're vanilla. So not true

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  10. Ditto on not having time for fangirling. Plus, I'm one of those people who's just always inevitably out of the news loop on...everything, lol.

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    1. Ha! Same here, I get my "news" super late.

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  11. I think I have slacked off lately too... life kind of gets in the way. I seem to come and go depending on my mood too. Great post!

    Naomi @ Nomi’s Paranormal Palace

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    1. I think when you start blogging that will automatically zap your fangirling time

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  12. Yeah complicated thing. I'm trying to do the best but like you I don't stalk author and all. Even if I wanted to I wouldn't have the time to do so. It's a really interesting post Braine, thanks for sharing with us!

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  13. Great post Braine!! I'm a terrible fan! I don't even follow many on twitter. I I'm pretty good at separating the artist from their art. I understand there's human being just like me behind the pen so I've never have idolized any of them, but at the same time I've never been disappointed. I have immense admiration for some, and narrators too, and I do my part by trying to review their work.
    You said it, some people need a life in the worst way.

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    1. Well said. I've managed to remain objective too so far unless I've witnessed or experienced something horrible first hand like author bullying etc. Only then would it maybe affect my feel for the book.

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  14. It is like you said I love them but time..it is so precious and sometimes I cannot even as much as I want to. You are so right about Street teams some are fun, you make friends, you share your love of books/author and others its like a damn cheerleader boot camp and there is no way I can meet all their demands

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    1. Damn right! And lol on the cheerleader boot camp. Is it really that bad?

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  15. So many excellent points... I belong to a few street teams and I'm really active in some but others I just sit back and follow because I just do not want to engage, I'm just there for updates and what not.

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    1. Me too. I'm there for speedy updates, sometimes even engaging takes a lot of time. LOL

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  16. I think I'm right there with ya Braine! I have no time to get involved in bashing or arguing (especially when it comes to fictional characters)..haha Street Teams are a commitment, I admire the fans who give it 100% but I just don't have that kind of time on my hands! :)

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    1. It takes a different kind of crazy to get into the fantasy. I've always been rooted here, I never really became rabid over book boyfriends and all that shit, you know? It's amusing to watch the crazies get at it though.

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  17. Man, what a manifesto! So well written, my toes are all a-tingle :) I think I'm a good fan too, but not a fangirl either. I have authors that I read with so much passion I forget to breathe, but the list is short, and in any case I don't do more than preorder their books, inhale them and occasionally check out their blogs. I guess I'm not much of a (street) team player - I'm selfish like that and don't like to share my authors with anyone, if that makes sense. To conclude, being a fan - especially of the sane variety - is a thing everyone should try; but fangirling takes a certain something that I just don't have. And that's okay :)

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    1. Ha! I'm like that with my music. I don't share the good ones lol.

      Fangirling to me is the equivalent of an olympian and this girl isn't fit enough to compete.

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  18. Oh wow, wonderful post. It is crazy when I start to realize how much time I put into posts and visiting my lovely bloggers

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    1. It's so easy to loose half your day doing that alone. Insert reading and you're done.

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  19. I'm a big fan, but a not so good fangirl, either, Braine. I'm not a part of any street-teams, but I do belong in a couple of groups where authors also interact with their fans. But even when it comes to authors I love, I can't know in advance if I'm going to love their work, so I'm always very careful when I agree to do a review for an author I interact with... I don't want to promote a book if I didn't really enjoy it, so I post honest reviews, all the time.
    And you're right, it is pretty time-consuming just to have our own blog, and visit our blogger-friends. To come up with content that is original and personal isn't easy, so spending time doing lots of other things online is just not possible for me either.
    Great post, Braine!!
    Lexxie @ (un)Conventional Bookviews

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    1. There's also pressure sometimes with being part of a street team especially if the author is really pushing to get their work out there. Like they expect you to read every book they publish and promote every release. I don't like that not just because of time, but like you said, I have to like and believe in it first before I push it to my followers and friends.

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  20. Gah thank you so much for this! For months now I've been feeling like a bad fan because I haven't kept up with my favorite authors (I used to chat regularly with a few of them), or even had money to buy their latest books (My library sucks about getting the newest books in). Then there's the crazy aspect from both sides. I am so worried about getting caught up in one of those "Crazy People" Cyclones that I've withdrawn a lot from social media. I used to be all up in the promoting and tweeting and all that but lately not only have I lost time, but I've lost a bit of confidence. You just don't know who the crazy ones are until it's too late!

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    1. Don't be! remember this is a (full time) hobby so give what you can. As for the books and finances, I feel ya! Hence my addiction to netgalley and EW. With the amount of books we read, it's so easy to break bank.

      As for the losing confidence, that's so true! There's a lot of crazies out there using different names it's easy to get caught up in their web of lies.

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  21. Well said Braine. I feel the same way about street teams. I'm pulling out of a couple that I'm in as I just don't have the time for them any more as their demands are getting ridiculous with no reward for the effort even though it was promised. So, yeah I'm not a good fangirl either.

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    1. Exactly! Like being part of your street team is great but I think the "honor" should come from the author and not really us. Like they should be more grateful that people are willing to do shit for them instead of us feeling blessed because we're in their circle. There are exceptions of course, it's the crazies I'm referring to.

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  22. :))))) The awesomeness of this post!! The sheer awesomeness of those last lines :))) <3

    I'm totally with you. We blog about books. We already have our own spaces to squee when and if we feel like it, right? I'm not much of a joiner by nature anyway, put me in a group of squealers and I'm all out of squeals, you know? :D

    Going into fangirling communities sort of strangely reminds me of gangs, in a way. Some tend to go hardcore over aspects, obsess about them, become aggressive and pushy when someone has a different opinion, and you end up spending more time debating (non-interesting) stuff than enjoying the thing you were fangirling about initially. *shrugs*
    I've always been of the "enjoy on your time, on your terms" school of thought. :D

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    1. Great analogy! Women fans are the worst! I mean have you been to a sample sale?! Fans are like gangs. Just the "teams" alone are great illustrations of that.

      Hi 5! This is why we follow each other because we're the "sane" ones lol

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  23. I try my best to ignore all the drama with fans and/or authors. It's always hard to find the balance between blogging, reading, promoting. I feel your pain and love your honesty in this post.

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    1. Balance is a slippery slope. I tend to binge lately. Like today, I've been sitting in front of my laptop for 4 hours now doing blogger shit. Tsk.

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